...Many people cope with stress by planning ahead.
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The worst of the waves of layoffs may be over, but countless American workers who still have their jobs are unhappy at them, overloaded with increased responsibilities, short of colleagues to share the burden, and unsure where they can turn to look for something better. Few people got raises last year--many took pay cuts--and its not looking like pay hikes will come anytime soon.
"Everybody is as stressed as Ive ever seen," reports Joan Kane, a Manhattan psychologist who has worked as a therapist for 23 years. "The stress level is off the charts."
According to Kane, the usual therapeutic approaches do not apply right now. "In therapy, we try to help patients discover who they really are," she explains. "In this environment, its more helpful to not necessarily be your authentic self." Instead, she says, you need to show that you can adapt. "Even if things are horrible and morale is low, you do not want to go in and say so to your boss. Instead you want to describe how what youre doing is positive and talk about what youve created and why youre successful."
Many workers whose central focus in life was their job have had to set their sights elsewhere. Patients who complained about their work for years are suddenly clamming up. "They feel they have no right to complain, because theyve got a job," says Paul Browde, a New York psychiatrist. "Underneath, they are more stressed than ever before. Its like living with a continual chronic stress disorder." Many shift their conflicts to the home front. "People are starting to have marital and health issues," Browde observes.
Browde encourages his patients to be aware of their anxiety. Know that eventually this phase must pass. Meanwhile, find time for relaxation and exercise, even if you
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